Sometimes we get caught up in being a mom. It's no secret, our kids need us. Not just for physical needs, emotional needs too. It's very easy as a mom to put your needs to the side and tend to others. That's what we are supposed to do right?
What happens when we give so much of ourselves to our kids that we forget who we even are? We start to identify with the label of "mom" - what that means to us and how we are supposed to show up as a mom. I think when we were little girls, we had an idea of what a mom was. Whether we got the idea from our own mom or what we saw on TV. Somewhere during the journey of being pregnant to become a mom and stepping into the role of mom, it's almost like we have lost the identity of our former self - before kids. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely things I am happy that changed from my life before kids, at the same time, there are so many things I loved to do before kids, that I wish I could do still, but don't have the time or energy.
It's kinda funny, we know everything our kids like and what makes them happy, but what about us? I am grateful to be a mom to our two kids, yet there are times that I look at them and wonder how they learned to push my buttons so well!
Let's get to the real talk, shall we? When was the last time you had some time to yourself to do what ever you wanted? It doesn't have to be hours, maybe just 20 minutes? Even 10 minutes can make a difference in our emotional health and wellness. Do you take time out for yourself each day?
If you said no, then I have to share something with you that took me a few years to learn. You need boundaries. You have to make a serious choice to what you say yes to, because every yes is a no to something else. If you start to spread yourself too thin and take on more than you can handle, overwhelm kicks in, then you start doubting yourself and before you know it, you have full on mom fatigue. You feel like your drowning and can barely breathe, you've lost all sense of control, you have no idea who the woman in the mirror is and you feel like a shitty mom.
WAKE UP CALL - You aren't a shitty mom. You have just put everyone else as a priority over you and your health, happiness and needs. I'm sure you've heard it before - you can't pour from an empty cup. It's time you start taking care of you, so you have the love and energy to give them the best you.
If you are feeling buried in mom fatigue and need a way out - here's your sign! It's time to take back the control of your life and stop running on auto pilot. It doesn't have to be complicated, the last thing I want you to do is feel like you are taking on more and get even more overwhelmed. I'm here to help you discover a realistic approach to understanding and accepting where you are and how to overcome the stress and fatigue.
Step 1 - TAKE BACK CONTROL